10 Signs That Your Relationship May Benefit From a Marriage Counselor
1) Communication seems like it is going in circles
2) He/She seems unwilling to compromise
3) Our personalities seem incompatible
4) His/Her family gets in the way
5) Fighting is cruel
6) Fighting never seems to reach resolution
7) Your fights become physical
8) You rarely or never have sex
9) You can't agree on how to raise or discipline your children
10) You have discussed or fantasized about divorce
Maryland Marriage Counselor is not a web site that most people expect to be visiting when they first fall in love. Marriage or domestic partnership is supposed to be about hopes and dreams of a life spent happily together, perhaps raising a family, full of wonderful vacations and experiences that will last a lifetime.
When you making a commitment like marriage or living together somewhere in the back of your head you may be thinking, “oh sure, there will be some challenging times, but we’ll get through them – we’re different.”
But as time goes by life tends to get a bit more complicated than you expected. Things like earning dual incomes, raising children, keeping a house up, and managing finances can leave you feeling more like business partners than lovers.
Then there are those nagging little fights that never seem to go away. Over time they seem to grow bigger and bigger until it gets to the point when you look at your partner and instead of that dream come to life you saw when you first met you now see someone who may at times feel more like a nightmare .
This transition from dream marriage to real marriage can sometimes leave you wondering if you're with the right person, cause you to feel anger or resentment, and even consider having an affair or getting divorced.
Just why is it so hard to heal those wounds when you are supposed to be on the same team? How could something that seemed so wonderful end up being so painful and destructive? How in the world did you end up on the Maryland Marriage Counselor web site?
Here's the good news/ bad news about your relationship:
Over the last two decades there has been a lot of research on marriage looking at what keeps couples together vs. breaking apart.
If I asked you what you thought the deciding factor was I'm guessing that you would say something like how often you fight, how often you have sex, how well you communicate or how much time you spend together.
Great guesses all of them. And they're all wrong.
Want to know what makes the difference?
What the research shows is that roughly 2 out of 3 problems that every couple have are chronic and are not likely to go away. That means no matter who you are with you are going to have a host of problems that are simply the price of admission for being in that relationship.
Thats the bad news.
The good news is that the research shows that the difference between those who stay together vs. those who split up boils down to learning a few relatively simple skills and tools to change your attitude about the problems you are having while at the same time changing the way you approach or communicate about them.
Maryland Marriage Counselor: My Approach
Since 1991 I have been helping couples find new ways to heal old wounds and to rediscover why they fell in love. While in session, I use cutting edge approaches that have been proven to be the most effective to help you heal the old wounds while at the same time providing you with innovative skills to restore your relationship to where you want it to be.
Talking about the problems in session is only half the solution. Oftentimes couples have become so absorbed by their problems that they have forgotten how to have fun. To help you with regain the joy and connection that you used to share I will show you a number of very simple things that take only a few minutes a day that have been proven by research to rebuild your bond to on another.
Please feel free to contact me with any questions you may have or to schedule an appointment
